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Is Your Attitude Squashing You?

Attitude Squashing You?

Attitude Squashing You?



Is YOUR Attitude Squashing YOU?


Do people frequently attribute any of these sayings to describe you at home and/or work – reactive, pessimistic, downer, cynical, defeatist, or grumpy?  If so, your attitude IS squashing you!

Simply put by Coach Lou Holtz – “Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.”

A person’s attitude is their affinity or inclination to respond in positive or negative ways to events, ideas, objects, people, organizations, etc.  A person’s attitude influences their choice of action, and responses to other people, opportunities, challenges, consequences, rewards, and situations.  The key is YOU get to choose your attitude – it does not choose you!

In my experience people exhibit/choose 3 basic attitudes:


  1. Explorer – People with an Explorer attitude are proactive participants in life and work, and thrive on opportunities brought on by change.  They take calculated risks and over deliver on their commitments.  They are consistently enthusiastic and energetic people, and their attitude is contagious to other Explorers and some Followers. Explorers look at the ‘glass as half full’, and have what Stephen Covey calls an ‘abundance mentality’.
  2. Follower – People with a Follower attitude are the reactive spectators of life and work, and are usually reluctant to adapt to change. They rarely take risks and are uncomfortable making commitments, instead relying on others to make major decisions and commitments.  Followers need motivating to deliver on commitments, otherwise they tend to coast. Followers see Explorers as successful and may seek them out, and want to work with them.  They also can be negatively motivated by Cynics.
  3. Cynic – People with Cynic attitudes are the victims and carpers of life and work and are annoyed by change.  They are sarcastic and pessimistic people that can drain the energy out of other people, teams or organizations.  They believe risks and commitments are forced on them by others.  And when difficulties arise, they enjoy being ‘told you so’ critics and finding fault, after the fact, in efforts, results and people.  Cynics many times resent the success of others and have what Stephen Covey calls a ‘scarcity mentality’.

Most people demonstrate some of all three attitudes and choose different attitudes based on varying situations and events, but one attitude tends to dominate in each of us.  So if your attitude is squashing you, even occasionally, what can you do?

  1. Reflect On Your Attitude and Honestly Assess It
    1. Self-assessment
    2. Trusted colleagues, friends and family assessment
    3. Admit Your Barriers, and Drivers.
      1. Dominant attitude
      2. Situational attitudes
      3. Barriers to a better attitude
      4. Drivers to a better attitude
      5. Determine Probable Root Causes of Your Barriers
        1. Causes you control
        2. Situational causes
        3. Physical and mental causes
        4. Commit To Make Changes In Your Attitude
          1. Reduce or eliminate cynics in your life
          2. Set short-term goals
          3. Measure goal achievement
          4. Set new short-term goals
          5. Seek outside help, if needed
          6. Put Some Gratitude in Your Attitude

Remember, you choose your attitude – it does not choose you.


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Habits For a Successful Career – Habit #4

Passion for Learning

Passion for Learning


Habits for a Successful Career

Habit #4 – Develop a Passion for Learning

After enduring four or more years of college, most people are ecstatic to get out in the ‘real world’ – and stop studying.  Does this sound familiar?  If so, you are in for a HUGE surprise.  A successful career requires people to recognize that learning is a journey, not a destination.  A passion for learning is a prerequisite for Habit #2 – Be Proactive and Adapt to Change and Habit #3 – Build Trust and Credibility.  Continue improving/mastering knowledge and skills in a variety of areas including:


  • Current Events
  • Technology
  • Selling and Negotiation
  • Business/Industry
  • Project Management
  • Management
  • Communication
  • Leadership


Update your goals annually with at least two areas for focused, continued learning and education.  In addition, teaching others is a part of the learning experience.

Current update for Habit #4:  Great article on “The Best Investment You Can Make” -



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Habits For a Successful Career – Part 3

Successful Career

Successful Career

                    Habits for a Successful Career-Part 3  


In Part 2 of Habits for a Successful Career discussed the Habit #1 for a Successful Career  – Define Success . . . . For YOU!

Defining YOUR success requires a vision and definition for Life and Career success values.  One without the other rarely works well, and Life Success Values is a prerequisite for sustained, Career Success.  Life Success Values are grouped in three categories: Healthy Self, Social Self, and Spiritual Self. We discussed how to identify your top 15-20 values across these three components, and prioritize the values.  The last  step was to score your success/fulfillment for each value.  Example Life Values/Scorecard can be found on Palomino’s web site at:

To complete the Habit #1, we need: (1) finish  painting a vision and defining success for Career Success Values, (2) to build a map of 2 and 5 year goals aligned with the Life and Career Success Values, and (3) prioritize each goal.  These Career Success Values consistent of the several categories:

  • Achievement
  • Balance with Life Success Values
  • Work Environment and Culture
  • Advancement and Growth
  • Work Relationships
  • Compensation and Security

As with the Life Success Values, identify your top 15-20 career values across the above categories, and prioritize the values at the present time.  Last step is to score your success/fulfillment for each value.  An example Career Values and Scorecard can be found on Palomino’s web site at:

That completes Defining Success for YOU.  In the pursuit of fulfilling, consecutive, progressive achievements,  a successful career, we need a map of prioritized goals of how to get there.  For example, if one of your important career values is rapid advancement, then a set of your high priority goals may include:

  1. Complete project management training in 12 months.
  2. Complete and achieve PMP certification 18 months.
  3. Network to get assigned to at least 3 achievable, visible projects and opportunities over 24 months.
  4. Build network of 12 top performing peers in 24 months.
  5. Build a network of 6 company leaders/mentors in 18 months.

It is important that your goals can stand up to the ‘SMART WIN’ test.  See if the above goals are:

  • S pecific
  • M easureable
  • A chievable
  • R ealistic
  • T imely
  • W ritten
  •  I mportant, Not Urgent
  • N ear Term

Next we will discuss Habit #2 – Be Proactive and Adapt to Change.


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